Should there be only one passion in our life?

A week ago, I headed off to Gokarna for a new Year’s trip..lazed around in the beaches and experienced what it means to lead a laid back life without the daily grind of waking up heading to office, traffic jams, coming back and sleeping.

Here I met these two interesting ladies from Holland who have embarked upon a world tour. As I started interacting with them, I realized that they were just around 26 years of age and they are travelling across the world to find themselves and find their passion. Their claim is they have not yet found thier passion!!

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I started thinking what if I can never find my passion??..or further more..do I have a passion at all? or do I have only one passion?

Here’s a small social experiment I did on two of my friends who were with me on the trip.

Friend 1 (who recently broke up with his girlfriend)
Freind 2 (likes his job very much)

Me : Ok tell me, so u wanted her to be in your life..for how long you want her..
Friend1 : for my entire life, I wanted her to be in my entire life
Me : So, assuming you live for 60 years..you want her till then?
Friend1 : Ofcourse, Yes
Me : What if you have 200 years to live..do you still want her and only her? no one else?
Friend1 : Yes..
Me : 300?
Friend1 : Hmmm..I think so
Me : 500?
Friend1 : C’mon stop it dude..it doesn’t make sense..
Me : Just for discussion sake, answer me da
Friend1 : Hmmm..I donno..(now he actually started smiling looking at me..as if he wants to hook up with as many women as he wants, and he already has 500 years)
Me : 1000?
Friend1 : 1000?? I guess not just about a girl we get bored of everything, Our Job, place where we are staying..lifestyle

Bam..!!!

same set of questions (replaced girl with his “Job”) thrown at Friend2…

Bam!!!!

The truth is we all have passions..many passions..Love, adventure, experiencing cultures through travel, play music, become a rockstar, teaching someone something worth, even travel to moon if possible..MANY MORE..

The only realization I got through the “1000 year life” discussion is there’s no one passion. May be some top passions, I have many passions..Everyone has multiple passions..

May be, the idea is to be passionate about everything..passionate about this life and this world!!

Infact, Being passinate about life itself will eliminate any form of addictive passions which prevent us from living life to the fullest….such as screwing up one’s life over one guy/girl, or becoming obsessed with football

So if you are searching for your passion..accept that you have many..given the time you have in this world, try to fulfill as many as possible!!

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5 things to do before the world comes to an end!!!!

Mayans first calculated it.People have pondered over it.Philosophers seem to like it.Nostradamus has prophesied it.Religious fanatics are preaching it.Physicists are already visioning it, media is already salivating over it..bloggers like me are already feasting on it..

Yes the end of world is near!!!

Global economic system is crashing, people are losing faith in governments..chaos everywhere..a conspiracy might be already kicking which is hiding facts from common man. (I guess..this is the effect of watching 2012 twice in two days!!)

I donno..am not an expert on predicting the end of the world. I’m not even able to predict the stock markets correctly.

Anyways, Thats not the point..

Is the world is really coming to an end in 2012? If so, are you finished with your syllabus?

do we want to continue to lead our lives the same way that we have been doing so far? or do we really need to ramp up the pace of our lives to start crossing off ur bucket list..may be it includes slowing down from the mad pace of this daily life as well and start appreciating life better..Just for this reason, I would really like to believe the end of world by 2012. This will help me do things in life that I would otherwise keep on procrastinating.

Now, all we have is around 50 weekends left..!!! Thats all..
We have 351 days left (assuming the world is coming to an end on dec 21 as they show in the movie 2012!!)
It’s like, your doctor comes to you and says “it’s a case of supratentorial primitive neuroectodermal tumor, u’ve got 11 months left”

it’s time set few things in order..

1) Fall in Love: with someone and something completely/madly/crazily:

There’s never a bad time to fall in love. If you already have someone special in your life, it’s time to show them how much they mean to you. May be it’s time to plan that trip which you have always dreamt of taking her to..!!
If you don’t have that someone special in ur life yet, it’s time to get up, move your ass, make an effort to find that someone special. not leave anything to chance.

show your friends/family that they mean a great lot in your life.

If your passion is phtography, It’s time to put on your shoes, take your camera out..walk into jungles..FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR WORK..UR PASSION

2) Achieve the ultimate freedom:

If where you are working is making you lazy and sick everyday, it’s time to say goodbye to your job and pursue your passion. It’s time to break free from all the limitations that you experienced which were crippling you to do various many great things life. If you are surrounded by peple who just tell you that things cannot be done, it’s time too smile at them and say “goodbye”..

forgive everyone and everything as that frees you from burdens of worry/hatred

3) Try a regretless 2012

We’re born, then we die, and in between we make a lot of mistakes.

Do everything that you think to be correct. You’ve got no time to worry about society and what it thinks about you and your actions.

If you are feeling regret about something that you have done in the past,it’s time to go to the person whom you’ve hurt and say “I’m sorry” Sincerely..

And finally. don’t regret the regret!!

4) Laugh more

You got no time to worry and cry about stuff. Laugh more and start with laughing at urself. Laugh at urself thinking that all your years of effort will come to and end
at one go and how big a loser you were..laughing at urself also frees urself from worries..

We should consider every day lost on which we have not laughed at least once.

5) Embrace and Enjoy Life to the fullest:

We’re all going to die. well, eventually. And although none of us really know what’s going to happen tomorrow, it shouldn’t prevent us from enjoying today. I know it’s totally cliche, but the expression “live each day as if its your last” is the secret for leading life fully. If you’re happiest travelling around the world and exploring places,do that. If you are happy writing blogs, reading books, do it.. Just do it..Nike style..Your friends will feed off your energy and feel just as great by being in your presence. No one knows how long we’re here for, so enjoy, Embrace and Love it.

But, keep on staying healthy and happy..if the world doesn’t end, it surely will need people like you.

Why should you workout even if you don’t like it..

Well, let me confess one thing — I was not a big fan of Gymming till recently. I used to find it boring and also repetitive with no surprise/exciting elements that we typically find in playing outdoor games. I still feel so, but when i actually started gymming reluctantly offlate, i felt that there are some wonderful things that this activity helps us realize ..

let me point out few things which are beyond obvious things like getting fit and strong..

1) Physical meditation

The 90 minutes that i spend in Gym is one activity of the day thats like a physical meditation to me. what do i mean by it? well, it’s the time when i actually become aware of myself physically. How much weights can i lift? how long can i run on tread mill? can i lift myself with my arms? how far can i stretch my legs? this is a kind of my physical reality check..i guess if u have any dreams of a long healthy life..you should know you physical strengths and limitations..

2) Looking Good

 Gym is the place where u can see urself in all directions/angles in big mirrors. It gives you a check on how fat/thin r u? how’s ur tummy protruding out? are ur legs in shape? is your ass a pumpkin? r u arms flat? It’s ur best vanity check..u automatically start looking good and energetic once u r in the habit of going to gym regularly.
In fact, try looking at anyone around you, and u can tell whether they are working out or not just by looking at their face..u’ll be surprised to see that u r 99% right I strongly believe that “if you are good looking naked, then u will most probably be good looking with clothes on”.. if u wanna look good/younger and energetic..It starts with Gym, Beauty salons/fashion tips come later..

3) Patience:

It teaches you patience..one thing i started to realize lately is that my patience is getting better..I see that the improvements are slow, but steady..i actually started appreciating the processes that are slow. It’s like a seed which takes time to grow into a tree and the wait is worth it and its natural..

4) Time management

Atleast for me, dedicating 90 min 0f the day hasn’t taken anything off from my plate. I’m still doing all the things that i was doing before I enrolled into Gym. Perhaps, it’s the feeling of energy that is helping me to not miss anything that i was doing earlier. Just goes n to prove that “I don’t have time” is a myth..it applies to everything in life..

5) Others : improved self esteem, cure for feelings of depression, what  not..just google it..

If you are understand what am talking and decide to take a step to go to Gym, Happy working out..

This part of my life is called “2010”

2010 has been one hell of an year for me.They say time teaches you valuable lessons, that way 2010 has definitely given me a crash course, personally and professionally.It’s more of a reiteration of the things that i perhaps just thought about. I stepped into 2010 just fresh from losing a job on 31st Dec,2009. On this morning when I was busy making evening plans and deciding on which pub to hit, an early morning meet with our board of directors gave an unexpected shock of our company’s closure. With no early indications of such an event, it was indeed time’s cruel moment for all the employees of the company.

The unexpected welcome to a new Year was definitely a tough thing to handle, especially when you have a family whose only source of strength, mentally and economically is you. As I can’t afford any panic to set into my mom’s mind, I have no option but to start the new year with a lie. I somehow managed a lie that our office is getting renovated and we are working from home for next one month or so. The tough part is not just to decide upon future course of action, but also to handle any voice which says “I already warned you not to join start-ups like these”.

The worst part is that this incident caught me completely off-guard. With not much of savings to back me up, I could only sustain few more months without a Job. Anyways, luckily for me, before the lie became unmanageable, I landed with another job offer, this time in Bangalore. All thanks to my friend who literally bailed me out with a referral and a solid hyping of my profile.

Lessons I have learnt:

1) It’s fine to lie to Ur loved ones if it can avoid panic

2) Just because start ups have higher chance of failure doesn’t mean u shudn’t take a risk. In fact, it’s worth taking such a risk sometime in your career. Well, what this company taught me is something which no other company would ever be able to.It has opened all new doors to me and changed my entire outlook towards life.

3) Save for rainy day, u never know when u may need it

Although my initial mood of leaving Hyderabad and going to Bangalore was full of skepticism, i was proven wrong. After almost 5 years, I got a chance to meet my engineering friends. The best part about college friends is that even if u meet after a long long time, you guys talk as if it’s just yesterday that u met. No formalities, no false smiles, direct fun.

Not only did i get a chance to meet old friends, but had an opportunity to make new friends. My cool flatmates and chilled out colleagues. In fact, I also happened to make friends much younger than me in turn making me feel lot younger. (Hey, am not so old, c’mon just 28).Had long chats, intense discussions, random blabbering and sometimes simple silence. It’s not how long is your friendship, it’s about how intense it is.

Lessons I have learnt:

1) Have friends of all age groups and from various professions, i broadens your outlook. makes you always feel fresh in life.

However, for the first time in my life, i experienced people who are same age as me bossing me around, just because they had so called MBA degrees up their sleeves. Two things about these guys has distinctly struck me. Their urge to participate in rat race (if there’s no such thing is office, they’ll create it) and the shallowness that their MBA degrees added to their otherwise good levels of intelligence. I distinctly remember how few of these guys used abbreviations and jargon for the heck of it completely disregarding the fact that they don’t fit the context. It doesn’t mean all these guys are similar, I have also met some really sensible and intelligent MBAs who think outside their text books and apply common sense.

Lessons I have learnt

1) MBAs teach as much bullshit as that of valuable lessons, it’s up to the individual to learn things selectively

2) Never do an MBA just because others are doing it

Got a chance to go on few long drives and got to watch the real country side. The beauty of the nature and the chance to get in touch with the country side has definitely helped me to see life differently and re-prioritize few things. The mundane daily routine of our corporate lives have paralyzed me for too long. I have made travelling and biking etc as the top priorities for the rest of my life.

Lessons I have learnt

1) Grab every opportunity to travel to a new place, its gonna be really enriching.

Almost came this close, i mean this close to who i thought to be the “girl of my life”. But alas, fate has some other plans. Anyways, I tried my luck and gave what i thought to be my best shot.

Lessons I have learnt

1) Try ur luck, the helplessness of not trying is worse that the failure itself.

2) life goes on absolutely as usual. specially for guys 🙂

Happened to witness tragic death of a close relative and came to hear of another death of a friend. In both cases, they must have planned so many things about their lives in the days to come. But as they say, “Life is what happens to you, when you are busy planning something else”.

Lessons I have learnt

1) The realization that life can ditch you any time is all the more reason to live in the moment and enjoy the present, It’s indeed a “present”.

Parallely, I have witnessed lots of outside stories which doesn’t hold much significance to me at this time. The multi-crore scams, the commonwealth games, Sachin refusing to grow old, finally Spain conquering the world cup, the face book revolution, the new mobile generation, the global economy, the Korean War, shiela ki jawaanis and the enviable packages and job offers for the new bunch of kids.

Lessons I have learnt

1) Lead your own sweet life, let the outside things be no more than news to u

Now am back to Hyderabad and back to home sweet home. Hoping for another exciting New Year. I’m not bothered about successes or failures, am only interested in exciting times. Am sure 2011 will teach me new lessons and make me realize few more things in a hard manner. It may teach me things which are opposite of what i believed so far, but i don’t care. I’m just looking and looking ahead. If the path ahead is rocky lemme trek, if it’s all dark, let me explore and if it’s all grass lemme have a memorable walk.

Dumb and Dumber…Numb and Number

Just happened to read an interesting article in “Times of India” today.

This is about how our life started getting to be dominated by numbers/IDs/Passwords. Think of it, everything in our life has a number/ID associated with it. For the corporate crowd, the list is even longer. lemme list few things that come to my mind.

1) Phone number (mobile, office, residence)

2) Address with some more numbers

3) PAN Number

4) Employee ID

5) Bank Acct Number

6) Credit/Debit card numbers and PINs

7) special coupon/discount numbers

8) email IDs

9) User IDs to at least dozen sites including social networking, professional networking, college alumni sites….

simply 20 more..at the least

These are just all-time things..

Adding t0 the list is specific event based numbers/IDs.Call customer care with some issue about your mobile phone, internet, bank acct, ..again anything..Book a railway ticket — u get a PNR number..the list is endless..

While we grapple with this new phenomenon, some number crunching geeks, firms are already salivating at the infinite prospects of using this data.A new numerology and a mathematical boom is about to begin soon..think of it..what if our life is defined in terms of fancy mathematical equations. What if someone gives you an advice of what your next credit card number should be using the so-called number theories? These things already exist, but if data starts driving the logic, u can see an endless list of numerlogies. How about a numerlogy scam? FYI, it already exists for getting fancy number plates for your cars, cool phone numbers.

Amidst all this, common man will become a victim of this so-called patterns in randomness.

Indeed we are bec0ming “Dumb and Dumber” oops..i mean..”Numb and Number”